I’ve made some big changes to my business and as a result, exciting opportunities are flying in thick and fast.
I’ve been thinking about how I am when I’m at my best and about how we can become irresistibly attractive. How can we “attract” more great opportunities, experiences, people into our lives?
“What does this even mean?” you may ask, if you are not familiar with the Law of Attraction.
Well, here is my own interpretation – you are irresistibly attractive when you are happy, content and full of life.
I have dined out on a piece of praise from one of my first coaches for many years. She said to me:
“Amanda, you could attract opportunities whilst sitting in a bath of cold baked beans, with a paper bag over your head, farting.”
Hmmm… a becoming image, n’est-ce pas? 😉
As a seasoned Coach, I’m a constant observer of behaviour, including my own. So I’ve done quite a bit of analysis around this irresistibly attractive thing.
Believe me, I am not always attracting good things whilst sitting in that cold bath of baked beans (and I NEVER fart, by the way).
I have had long periods of time when I’ve felt that I’m on a treadmill – giving my heart and soul, working my butt off and going round in ever-decreasing circles. I’ve had times when the harder I’ve worked and the more I’ve tried, the worse the results. It’s been one knock after another. Have you ever been on that treadmill?
Those are the times when I forget to walk my own talk. I forget my own “secret” formula for being irresistibly attractive.
So how do we get out of that rut?
It’s simple, but not easy: You have to surrender. You have to let go, stop grasping. You have to trust, trust yourself, trust that things will work themselves out and just ride with the waves.
The tricky thing, in my own experience, is that the waves don’t immediately calm down once you let yourself ride with the damn things. It’s likely you’ll still be buffeted around, even once you stop fighting them. You might have to brace yourself for a few more high rollers.
Eventually, you’ll come to the shore, but you have to practise the surrendering bit.
Here are my 4 steps for attracting good things into your life
1. Set your intention of what you DO want and practise feeling as if you already have it. Practise like a mad woman (or a mad man)! Practise practise practise – even when it’s hard. Even when you want to yell:
“How can I practise feeling as if I already have what I want when I’m facing so many obstacles, so many problems”
Just. Keep. Practising.
2. Make a decision right now, that no matter what is going WRONG in your life, that you will focus on being relentlessly and nauseously HAPPY and GRATEFUL. Look out for opportunities to feel joyful every single day.
Here are a few questions you could ask yourself to help with relentless happiness and gratitude:
There are many more questions you could ask. Let your creativity guide you.
3. Take baby steps.
Create positive daily habits that will take you inch by inch closer to where you want to be. Don’t expect to get there, just do your daily habits for the heck of it.
4. Let go of the outcome.
I’ll repeat – keep acting as if, keep being happy, keep spreading sparkles into the world. Keep taking baby steps with your daily habits.
And keep in mind this one thing – you’ll be fine even if you never achieve your desired outcome.
Trust me, you can do this.
Here’s my very own “how to be irresistibly attractive” formula in a pretty little picture..